Today, I got hit by a few awesome realizations after going for coffee with my old friend from high school, Ambar. In fact those realizations have catapulted my idea of motivation into the next level. Ambar and I sipped, reminisced, imagined and laughed. We got into all sorts of topics and laughed some more. Which wonderfully, led the central theme of our 3 hour long conversation into the idea of connecting our dreams to our levels of motivation.
Motivation has kind of been the bane of my existence recently. I know how much I have to do and what that work entails, and yet sometimes I still find myself stuck, and surfing Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest and my email, relentlessly looking for some sort of distraction, because I’m afraid to get down to work. On a very conscious level I know that I’m not doing myself any favours, and yet I still feel stuck and unable to stop myself from continuing.
SUPER frustrating to say the least…
However (thank goodness), my conversation today, with my good friend did get me thinking about all of the progress that I’ve been making in my business and in my life and why it’s so important to remind myself of what I’m really working for.
And so without further ado, here are the two best parts of that conversation…
The first tidbit is that we all must at some point drill down until we hit the bedrock of our dreams. This is the process through which you find out who you are, what you want and why you’re going for it. A process also known as figuring your shit out.
I think that a lot of us post-grad kids go through this phase (and people of all ages regardless of schooling too.) It’s because we’ve come out of an intense period of study and work and feel burned out and lost about where we want to take our knowledge and expertise. I did. I know Ambar is now. And that’s really a great thing.
Why? Well essentially, that phase gives you the opportunity to explore. Through the process of exploration, you start to get experiences coming your way and you begin to feel a direction forming. I know this last part to be true because I have been presented with so many new opportunities that I never would have been privy to had I not moved forward with my dream, Urban Minerals.
The second tidbit builds on the first. Think about this for a second. Imagine you’re standing in a huge library, surrounded by a bazillion books (yes, bazillion) and inside those bazillion books are the bazillion directions your life could go. The process by which you come to self-realization and finding what you’re looking for, is by picking up one book after the other until you come across a title that piques your interest. Once you pick up that book, and start to read it, and then start to wish that it would never end, well then you know you’ve hit gold. And seeing as how you’re standing in a library, you might as well cross-reference that sh*t, because lord knows that if you have one interest, there’s always more where that came from.
Once you figure out what your path is in life (and legitimately it can take as long as you want it to) and have almost what one could consider a niche (especially in terms of starting your own business), then you can start to move towards making your dreams a reality. This goes for start ups of all kinds and finding a job that really speaks to you and fulfills you.
But for me this is also where I’ve been getting tripped up recently.
I think the reason why I’ve been feeling so unmotivated is because I have been spending so much time on Twitter and Facebook, Pinterest and email, just social media-ing up a storm and kind of neglecting the actual business side of things. I have obviously come a far way, but as my boyfriend Jess pointed out to me, I get so caught up in the physicality of drilling down into what I want, ie. Focusing on the social media so much in this instance, that I tend to forget that I have a business and a product that needs producing. Not a good feeling, but a legitimate one that I need to deal with.
But on the upside, I know that I am on the right track and that I am staying aware of what needs to get done albeit at a slow pace for right now.
All of these ideas just go to show that in life sometimes it’s OK to take your time, to wait, to falter and to think you’re at your final destination only to be confronted with a new one. I love looking at it in the context of a library because there really are a bazillion options out there, you just have to be ready and willing to look. Take your time out, look around, ride the ebbs and flows of motivation and then when your ready, come back to it on your A game. No harm done.
So, with all of that in mind, is there anything that you can admit that is holding you back from feeling fully motivated? Any realizations that you`ve had about your own motivation levels? I would love to hear about it either here, on twitter or anywhere else your heart desires!